We had another exciting week with the All Blacks parade in Wellington and the Guy Fawkes fireworks, great fun!
After the last rugby match last Sunday, I overheard someone saying that with the winning of the All Blacks, there would be a lot less domestic violence that day in NZ. And I found that upsetting. So this week the workout is about something a lot op people are not aware of. Over the years I have often heard people say it is good to give your emotions free reign, and express anger, but I have never agreed with that and this is why. Psychologist Brad Bushman explains it very clearly: “Maybe you have heard of the joke, “How do you get to Carnegie Hall?” The answer is: “Practice! Practice! Practice!” My question to you is: “How do you become an angry, aggressive person?” The answer is the same: “Practice! Practice! Practice!” Venting is just practicing how to behave more aggressively.”
So this week’s practice is about growing awareness of your feelings of anger, frustration, annoyance etc. Do you easily fire up? First step is observering yourself and when you see you are getting wound up, or have acted angrily, bring your focus to your breathing and just follow your breathing for a couple of minutes until you feel your body has calmed down. This is not about beating yourself up for being angry but about praising yourself for being aware and taking the first step to changing! It takes practice to become a calm and more balanced person, but it’s not impossible.
As always, would love to know how you are doing, have a good week,